Ok before I start this, this is NOT to insult my fellow female friends.. It's just my point of view on the fairer sex in general, and what I've experienced and so on. I suppose I am not going to earn much brownie points from my fellow ladies in particular, but hey... this is my blog and my thoughts..
Before we go any further, let's get some things straight. I am a Muslim(I used to be a Christian from childhood until 19), but am an open minded woman. I am a wife, a daughter and a mother. I am reasonably quite well read (read thousands of books, or at least an average of 3-4 books a week) and reasonably well- travelled( been here and there a bit, maybe not as much as I would love ) and what I'm 'scribbling'. Or typing here is just my take on general stuff and so on. No insults meant to anyone at all.
Ok.. According to a book I read back in the past 4-5 years ago, women were more or less categorized in 2. Angelic/ martyr or sluts. This was supposedly to be stemmed from their 'mothers' which is actually Eve, the first woman on earth or Lillith, the female demon who was actually Adam's first consort in the beginning, before Eve was created from Adam's ribs. (Ok,ok, to the Christians and Muslims, you're probably saying I'm blasphemous or something like that). I read that in a book entitled "Lillith" I remember, which my adopted sister bought from Kinokuniya and loan me.
Lillith was supposedly seductive and sly and she was power hungry. After Eve was created, she went and became the devil's consort and gave birth to thousands of demons.
Eve however was supposedly the exact opposite, thus the ideal mate for Adam back then.
Anyway, women in general have both Lillith and Eve's qualities, only some have more of Lillith's qualities, thus making them more nymphomaniac, power hungry and such.. And vice versa, making them shy, introverts..
Looking at some women around me, which are my own family members and friends makes me shake my head with disbelief at times.
They come in so many sizes, and so much 'drama' to make your head spin..
There are attention seekers, jealous biddies, low self esteemers, drama queens (from the very young to the very old), conclusion jumpers, etc..etc..
My mom could not understand me, because I allow my husband the freedom to mingle around with whomever he likes, be it men or women, and because I allow my husband to maintain a very close relationship with his ex wife and ex girl friends. She always ask me if I was not afraid my husband would return to his ex wife or so? I always just smile and shrug it off.
Well, I like to think I am matured and that since I love and trust my husband enough to marry him, surely I can trust him to do the right thing for all of us and that I trust him with what he does. Many women can't seem to trust their own husbands. Granted, many husbands are also unfaithfully untrustworthy..or is it untrustworthy unfaithfully.. Hehe..
Anyway here are some categories... There could be more but these are what comes to mind at present time...
The insecure and suspicious biddies: Many women seem to have issues with other women. Heck. I have been accused or at least viewed in suspicion by a couple of my client wives .. And all over a few innocuous smses I send their husbands.
One funny case was because I sent a client a eid mubarak or Hari Raya greeting which usually asks for forgiveness of any wrong doings, or said words. I did not send it to only him, but to countless other clients, both female and male when I got a phone call from this lady asking me what have I been doing with her husband that I have to be asking for forgiveness.
I assured her nothing was going on between her husband and me and that I was married and allowed her to speak to my husband and she asked him if I was telling the truth and if he was really my husband.. Hmmmppphh..
Then we have the peacocks: These women, myself included (according to my husband, though I beg to differ) are the ladies or women who love to tell others about their achievements, you'd probably here such sentences like, " Woo, my husband and I are going to Paris for two weeks, and we'll be staying at the Ritz Carlton" or " I'm thinking of buying the Porsche Carrera or should I get a BWM 5 series.." or "Dinner with Datuk/ Lord so and so at Hilton" or "I bought that dress the other day for 30K".. Ok.. I am not really to that level, but I guess I have to admit I am half a peacock.. LOL..
Then there are the sluts: these women can be married or single but will still prowl around flirting and scoring with any men who catches their sight and who gives them the attention they desire. They are not opposed to trying to ruin someone else's marriage or relationship. However,please note that NOT all 2nd wives are sluts, some just have the misfortune to be wined, dined and seduced before realizing their partner all this while was already married and someone's husband.
The martyrs: These women let themselves be stepped on most of the time. They will overlook insults, criticism and so on. They can even overlook their husband having an affair or let their partners or husband beat them up for no good reasons.
I am sure there are many more types but for now, they slip my mind. Once I can think of some more I will blog more.. So for now.. Signing off...
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